What does being highly sensitive mean?
As a Highly Sensitive Person, your brain is wired differently from someone that isn’t Highly Sensitive. You were born that way. Being Highly Sensitive is an innate temperament trait, not a disorder.
You aren’t broken & certainly don’t need fixing!
Think of High Sensitivity in the same terms as being left-handed. In both cases your brain is wired differently from the majority of the population. If you give a left-handed person a pair of scissors designed specially for them, using scissors suddenly becomes easy. Similarly, the Highly Sensitive Person’s life can be made much simpler by making a few changes. The first step though, is recognising that you’re Highly Sensitive. If you’ve been feeling different all your life, there’s a good reason – you are different! Different from the 80% of people that aren’t Highly Sensitive and won’t understand what you experience on a daily basis. How could they? It’s like trying to describe the rainbow to someone that’s colour-blind. As a Highly Sensitive Woman, Personal Development Coach, and Mother, I know how it feels to be torn between my family and career. The perpetual striving for perfection (common for Highly Sensitive People), wanting to be everything to everyone has, in the past, left me collapsed in a heap on the bathroom floor. It’s taken a few scares for me to come to the simple realisation that I have to take care of my needs first. Obvious, you’d think, but how many of us do that? That completely goes against the grain for women and mothers, let alone Highly Sensitive mothers whose empathy compels them to put others’ needs before their own. But here’s the thing, Highly Sensitive Women have to take care of themselves first before anyone else.
It’s not all doom & gloom…
Of course Highly Sensitive People can (and do!) live long, healthy and fulfilling lives. You can thrive in your High Sensitivity, making the most of your sensitive gifts rather than allowing them to be the cause of overwhelm and ill-health. As a Highly Sensitive Woman myself, I’ve had to take a long close look at how I live my life and at the things that increase or deplete my precious energy. I’ve learnt to listen to my body and act on the signals it gives me, rather than sticking my head in the sand and hoping for the best. Putting my needs first doesn’t mean that I neglect my family, in fact it means I have more energy for them and am generally a kinder, happier person to be around. I’ve managed to replace the constant feeling of overwhelm with joy & gratitude!
Celebrate your Highly Sensitive Gifts
Our abilities to notice the subtleties that others miss, and think deeply about things, gives us a huge advantage. These are gifts that we can bring to enrich our own lives and the lives of those around us. We’re the first to notice when someone wants to say something in a meeting but feels intimidated, the first to pick up on our child’s sad mood just from the set of their shoulders when they walk through the school gate at the end of the day. Highly Sensitive People tend to be the Advisors, Healers, and Teachers in society. Our traits needn’t be confined to the people and situations directly around us. You only have to google ‘famous Highly Sensitive People’ to see that the world has been shaped for the better by many HSPs..(Albert Einstein, Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Mother Teresa).
My passion in life is helping all Highly Sensitive Women understand our trait, manage our overwhelm, and let our sensitive gifts shine through so that we and the rest of the world can benefit from them. When I found out I was Highly Sensitive, I set about learning everything I could about what that meant. Through my research, I realised I had to make some pretty dramatic changes to take care of myself. I’ve gone from being lethargic, unfocused & feeling like the worst mother in the world to having loads more energy & confidence with my family & in my business. I now share the steps I took to nurture my High Sensitivity through my coaching, workshops & talks. If you’ve resonated with my story and would like to explore how to thrive with your Highly Sensitive trait, then please do contact me, I’d love to hear from you!