I feel like I need to start off with a deep & sonorous ‘OM’ after a title like that! Feel free to chant it to yourself before reading on …
Quite a profound statement, ‘your inner state creates your outer experience’, & one that I’ve heard repeatedly over the years.
Today, I finally realised how true it is.
My beautiful Highly Sensitive daughter got herself into a bit of a tizzy this morning.
We’re off to visit my husband’s family in Italy this weekend. As usual I was running around doing all the things mothers have to do before trips – all while trying to get the girls to school on time. Now I suspect my HS daughter was picking up on the general frantic mood, which may explain why she thought it funny to throw her sister’s cuddly toys down the stairs. Strangely enough, I was not amused.
Things generally escalated, a few irate words were exchanged, & my HS daughter ran to the bathroom, slamming the door (of course) & started howling.
Meanwhile, in full mummy-getting-family-ready-to-go-away mode, I was in my other daughter’s room, attempting to pack her clothes for the weekend. The howls from behind the bathroom door got louder, ‘MUMMY’!!!!!!!!! they went.
I felt like a pressure cooker, about to explode.
My immediate instinct was to lose my temper completely, yell very loudly & propel my daughters to school with steam hissing out of my ears, cartoon style.
Instead, I exercised my emergency release valve (all this meditating must be working after all) went into the bathroom & put my arms around my howling, snotty daughter. I made some reassuring mummy noises, & told her to take deep breaths in & breathe out the emotion. (She ignored me, but I did it & it helped calm me down)!
She was clearly in Overwhelm, as was I, but being only 9 years old, she didn’t know how to cope with it.
By managing my state, I was able to help her manage hers.
It could so easily have gone horribly wrong, with shouting & tears all round, but today my inner state of calm helped create a peaceful resolution. The girls did get to school on time. And I didn’t blow a gasket. Win-win.
Now, my enlightened readers out there will be saying – duh! – that’s so obvious.
For me, I had to experience this for myself on a mundane level to recognise its truth. Your inner reality really does create your outer experience.
Your thoughts, feelings & ideas, all the internal stuff, has an immediate & direct effect on what happens in your life.
All the more reason to make your internal dialogue positive eh?
Don’t take my word for it – try it for yourself.
The next time you feel triggered by something, pause, notice how you would normally react & change your response. See if you get a different result. Oh, & taking some deep breaths helps too!
Please share your experience with this in the comments below – I’d love to hear your stories.
All together now – OMMMMM……..